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A Guide to Self Confidence

It was a sunny afternoon. My co-teachers and I were talking when one of them asked me,

“How did you become this confident person that you are right now?”

The question actually made me think.


T-shirt: Uniqlo heat tech
Leather jacket: resale FUGA
Pants: GU Japan
Leather backpack and leather baseball cap: Marc by Marc Jacobs
Shoes: Zara
Photos: Rexcy Domingo


I was bullied in elementary school. I went to this all-boys Catholic institution where all my classmates picked on me for having an unusual long chin. They were calling me names like crescent moon and stuff and they even told me like I shouldn’t bow down coz once I did it, I would kill myself from getting stabbed by my own chin. Aside from that, I was also bullied because of my flamboyancy. I  even remember my 6th grade adviser (equivalent of a homeroom teacher) getting angry with me and my other effeminate classmates because we’re too gay. At that time, I felt so bad it made me cry buckets of tears that I wanted to leave that school.

After I left grade school, I promised myself no one can ever do those things to me again. Nobody can ever step on me like how my classmates and my homeroom teacher did to me. I went to high school and university and thank goodness, I became one popular kid who was loved by most people including my teachers and classmates, though there were a few who misunderstood by sharp tongue and loudness. But this time, I knew how to protect myself and brush off the haters. So what happened?


Confidence is a very important factor in life. WIthout it, there’s a lot of things that we can’t achieve. But there’s a bunch of people out there who are all having problems with their self-esteem. Based on my experience, these are some ways how I boosted mine.

1. Know thy self.

You have to be aware of yourself. You have to know the best and the worst things about you, your strengths and weaknesses and your assets and your liabilities. It’s actually better if you also try to understand why and how you become who you are. If there’s one person who should know yourself the best, it should be you. Ever since I was a kid, I knew I was special but during my elementary years, there were a lot of things that made me feel insecure which made me forget about my specialness.

2. Accept and love thy self.

I cried too much because of the bullying but I stopped and examined myself. I believed my chin wasn’t funny and my flamboyancy doesn’t annoy myself. I knew myself more and I came into terms with myself. Once you’ve known yourself, you have to accept who you are. You should embrace your wholeness because it’s you and when things go wrong, the whole world can turn its back against you and all you got is nothing and nobody but yourself alone. It’s very hard to exist in this lifetime when you’re not at peace with yourself.

Once you’ve found acceptance, love comes in. This one may take time because  it takes maturity to finally realize what self-love is really all about. It’s not that kind of narcissistic and egotistic kind of self-love but it’s more of, like what I said, accepting who you are and having peace with it. They even told me like I shouldn’t bow down coz once I did, I’m gonna kill myself.

3. Use your assets and work on your liabilities.

If you think you got the face and body plus the talent, go and be a model. If you’re good at calculating numbers, be an accountant. If you’re good at designing and drawing, do something related to it like painting, architecture or fashion or industrial design. If you can write well, be a journalist, playwright or whatever occupation that has something to do with that. You have to make use of your talents because those are your tickets to success. Things will be easier if you’re doing something that seems to come out so natural from you. And when it comes out from you easily, it breeds that certain confidence in your heart.

On the other hand, there are two things that you can do with your weaknesses. One is working on them. You can go there, study it and turn it into a capability. Because sometimes, we just need to be familiar with something to be able to do it. I suggest that you try doing it because sometimes, it’s just us who limit ourselves and our capacities. But if you’ve already tried and nothing’s happening, you just have to let it go (no music cues happening here, okay?). You’re human and we are imperfect beings. We have to accept the fact that we can’t have everything. That’s why we meet people on the way who can help us with these kind of stuff. And whether you buy this or not, sometimes, these little imperfections are what help us to find the right people in our lives. With that being said, we go to number four.

4. Surround yourself with the right people.

My family always believed in my talent. My grandma specifically would go and brag about me to her friends about my activities in school and my latest achievements. I also have a solid group of friends who stick to me no matter what and they aren’t afraid to spill to me the truth once I’m lost.

When I say “right people”, I mean the people who will cheer for you because they believe in you. They are the ones who are gonna push you up and help you float when you’re drowning. They are also the ones who you can seek advice from during times of confusion. They are also the ones who aren’t afraid to break it down to you once you’re blinded by your ego, emotions and even if you only have bothering booger in your nostrils. They can be your family, friends, mentors etc. They don’t have to be a lot. Choosing the members of your support team is like shopping for clothes- quality over quantity.  Once you’ve done this, you can see yourself in a more positive angle.

At the same time, you need to let go of the people who are toxic to your being. These are the ones giving you metal balls of negativity that don’t help you to walk forward in your journey or drown you in the sea of self-pity and insecurity. You need to stay away from them because they are stepping on your confidence which can’t help you to blossom in to this great person you are destined to be. I’ve met a lot of these people. I would usually feel bad to delete them from my life because I’d love to have peace with others as much as possible. But they weren’t helping me at all so I had to do it even if was hard for me.

5. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes.

Mistakes don’t happen just to put us down. We have to see their brighter sides. They happen for a reason and that is to teach as a lesson or two. We need to bump our heads in sharp edges most of the time to see until where can we go far. Once you’ve failed, never hesitate to try again because once you’re familiar with something, it can be easily done the next time.


Confidence is a vital tool in life. It will help you seize different opportunities that will also help you be the best person that you can be. Fashionably speaking, it can help you in finding your own style. Once you’ve become confident, you’re not afraid to experiment with clothes and find what message or story you really wanna tell through what you’re wearing.




T-shirt: Adidas Originals
Hoodie and shoes: Nike
Harem shorts: LATokyo
Oversized zipped hoodie on the waist and leather backpack: Marc by Marc Jacobs
Ranger bucket hat: Funktique Tokyo
Photography: Rexcy Domingo

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Hi guys! Happy New Year! How were your celebrations? I hope it was all merry and for my Philippine-based readers, I hope your fingers are still intact with you. For the benefit of those who don’t know, Filipinos celebrate New Year with firecrackers like how the Chinese do it in the Lunar New Year. Annually, there are numbers of people- from adults to children- who get injured due to this tradition, and sometimes, stray bullets from irresponsible gun-holders. Oops! No intentions to start with negativity in my first post of the year but there’s nothing wrong if I remind people about responsibility. Ok, that’s it!


These photos were taken on the last few days of last year so I was having second thoughts if I should post this on the first day of 2015. I didn’t wanna start the New Year with an early throwback because things should be moving forward, not backwards. But since January 1st is a Thursday, I might as well just do it.


This is the outfit that I wore to Disneyland with my blogger friends. Because I was having so much fun, I didn’t bother myself from taking photos for an outfit post which I didn’t regret at all. I decided to have the same look when I visited the Esprit Dior exhibition in Ginza and the Kyary Pamyu Pamyu-seum in Roppongi with my girl Rexcy. The temperature was a bit higher during my Disneyland and Ginza-Roppongi days which allowed me to walk around without a jacket but I knotted that oversized hoodie around just in case it becomes chilly at night (which eventually did).

The t-shirt was given to me by my dearest Emika on my birthday last year. I couldn’t wait for summer to wear it so I decided to put it on my trusted black hoodie with a heated technology undergarment beneath. It just fits with my new bucket hat which I bought in Funktique Tokyo during their second anniversary party. There was a black version of it but I decided to get the white one since I’m eyeing another black hat from somewhere.


Speaking of New Year, did you guys write your resolutions or goals for 2015? I already did and it includes physical fitness, traveling, branding, business and personal matters. They are small goals but I hope I can achieve them since I was able to achieve most of my goals last year.

And let me say this: I wish for romance this 2015. I usually don’t say this because I feel so desperate and pathetic and I’m actually not in a hurry. However, I don’t see any harm if I shout that out to the universe for a chance of being heard. Yes, I want a handsome, smart, tall, rich and generous partner. Find me already, for goodness sake!

How about you guys? What are your resolutions this year? Is there something specific that you’re excited about this 2015? Tell me.


PS: Yes, guys! I’m trying out some different stuff, like the text alignments, outfit details etc, here in the blog because it’s the New Year and it’s the perfect time to do some changes. Tell me how you think about it.

Kyari Pamyu Pamyu-seum: Sweet Costumes in the Candy Forest Exhibition

After all the glamour and luxury of visiting the Esprit Dior: The World of Dior exhibition in Ginza, I went straight to TV Asahi in Roppongi to visit the Kyary Pamyu Pamyu-seum: Sweet Costumes in the Candy Forest exhibition for an overdose of cuteness. I know guys! I’m more into monochromatic stuff- black, white, gray and things like that. But you see, I have a variety of friends and most of them love kawaii stuff. I have Kaila and Ashley in my circle who have influenced me to love kawaii in spite of my image to be a BW person. I think exposing yourself to things which are completely different from you will make you learn a few big things about yourself.  After all, I had a very colorful era in my style history.

For those people who don’t know, Kyary Pamyu Pamyu is a famous Japanese pop idol who makes electronic music but is more well known for her kawaii style which is inspired by Harajuku, specifically the decora subculture. According to her WikiPage, she started as a fashion blogger in 2009 and started to join the music industry in 2011, with her hit single “PonPonPon”. Ever since, she made a name for herself not only as a music artist but as an ambassadress of Japan’s kawaii culture which makes everyone dub her as Harajuku’s pop idol. She has graced the world with her hip dance music together with her unique sense of style.

This exhibition showcases all her costumes that she wore in the span of her three years in show business. It has already been done last year but due to insistent public demand, TV Asahi did it again and even brought it to other parts of Japan like Saitama, Yamagata and Kyoto.

I thought it was too early for this sort of homage to her great fashion hits because she still has a long way to go since she’s still on the top of her game. But anyways, this doesn’t mean that there’s no reason to celebrate the artistry of her style that captured the hearts of, not only of young Japanese people, but also of other kawaii culture lovers around the world. I mean, come on! Katy Perry, Niccola Formichetti, Lady Gaga, Dazed and Confused and I-D Magazines love her so much.

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From the moment we arrived at the entrance, we were greeted with kawaii overload. It felt like Disneyland and Sanrio Puroland combined together and multiplied their cute powers. It was indeed a bright pastel colored forest of sweets while you see all of KPP’s costumes and wigs worn by these faceless mannequins with a huge screen that features a video medley of her music videos and tours.

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Esprit Dior: The World of Dior Exhibition

After almost two months of wanting and dying to go, finally, I found the time to visit the Esprit Dior: The World of Dior exhibition in Ginza. It has been on going for almost the same time I’ve been wanting to go and it also coincides with Esprit Dior 2015 Tokyo collection fashion show which was held at the vast-spaced Ryugoku Kokugikan Sumo Stadium. The FREE, I repeat FREE, exhibition allows visitors to take a peek at the world of one of the most powerful fashion houses and see its evolution from the old days of history to the present times. From the founding days of Monsieur Christian Dior, Yves Saint Laurent, Gianfranco Ferre, John Galliano to the current Raf Simons era, it showcases how rich its past is and how it still gets inspired by tradition of femininity but with a touch of modernity.


A portrait of Monsieur Dior by Japanese artist Iximia Kuniyoshi. It felt kind typing that name because the Japanese don’t usually use the letter ‘x’ in writing their names in romaji/alphabet.

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The exhibition specially emphasized on the special relationship of Dior and Japan. There were precious photos of Margot Fonteyn in her Dior costume for Madame Butterfly, Princess Michiko in her custom-made Dior wedding and old fashion shows that took place in Japan years ago. Haute couture pieces from the Dior archive were up to showcase the apparent inspiration from Japanese culture and tradition- from famous paintings, origami pleats, obi belts and others.

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Funktique Tokyo’s 2nd Anniversary

Last week, I went to Funktique Tokyo’s second anniversary party at their shop in Harajuku. I can’t believe how they were able to penetrate the Harajuku scene in a span of two years. Thanks to the hard work of Misato and her husband Hijiri! Funktique Tokyo came about after the Great Tohoku Earthquake  when Misato’s family decided to move to the city from Iwaki in Fukushima for their child Coco’s safety. Since then, the Harajuku store soared high and became one of the most well-known stores in the world famous fashion district.

Harajuku’s street style icons like Hirari Ikeda and Elleanor and other shop owners and staff from the area like Dog Harajuku, Bubbles, Punk Cake and others attended the event and enjoyed a night of drinks, sweets, snacks and good music.

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I felt so little of myself when I had my photo taken with these two Harajuku icons. I bow down to thee! Thanks to Funktique for this photo!


Merry Christmas from Funktique Tokyo!!!! These sweaters are cute.


Congratulations to Hijiri, Misato and their very cute angel Coco for a wonderful second anniversary! More power to you!


Share That Light

Hello guys! How are you doing? It’s getting colder and colder here in Tokyo and I think this year’s winter is even worse than last year. As each day passes, it’s harder to get up from bed in the morning and make my lazy ass move.  Good thing, we’re a few days away from winter vacation. I can’t wait to recharge after all those stress and pressure that the busy second term of school gave to me. Moreover I can’t wait to spend Christmas and New Year with my family here in Japan and hang out with my friends more.


T by Alexander Wang scuba sweatshirt, H&M pants and hat, Gucci ring and Sam Edelman sandals


I bought this sweater as a birthday gift for myself. Actually I’ve been buying a lot of stuff for the past 3 months and I’m so proud how I was able to survive. The sweater is very warm coz it’s neoprene and is very functional with that spacious zip pocket in the tummy area.

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The whole world is free to hate now coz I’m wearing socks and sandals again. Hahahaha!!! But I really like it and I don’t see why other people find it wrong and tacky.


I’ve said in a previous post how happy I am with how things are happening in my life right now. I was surprised with the amount of positive feedbacks I got from friends and readers and they even told me that they felt like there was a positive energy that was passed on them after reading it or hearing my stories. A cousin of mine even told me how he sees me as an inspiration. I was flattered with the words but somehow I felt pressured to be seen as a role model. Coz I know my imperfections and I’m not the person fit for that role.

But then it made realize that  once you’re enlightened, it’s your turn to share that light.


photos by Kiko Cagayat

Last Days of Autumn


OAK NYC leather jacket, GU Japan pants, H&M and Gucci rings, Comme Ca Ism knitted scarf and Zara shoes

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It was a three day long weekend and what better way to celebrate it than to go to a friend’s family house, watch TV all day while being served with the best home-cooked food ever. Staying at Ena‘s house overnight probably gained me a few pounds that I had to eat less for three days. I can’t afford to gain weight because I just bought this very good leather jacket which is something I’ve always wanted. It just fits me right and a few kilos will definitely make it smaller for me and I just don’t want that to happen. The leather is made from cow skin with a lot of pockets that are totally functional. The only down side to it is its weight. I feel like I have a metal ball chained to my arms whenever I wear it. But who cares? Looking good usually comes with a price.

I’m sad that my favorite season autumn is now on its final stage and preparing to bid goodbye. The trees go completely bald and the temperature drops lower. Winter is slowly coming and I hate it because it’s getting harder to get up in the morning plus the bill gets higher because of additional heating system that consumes a lot of electricity. Not to mention that the gas also gets higher in this time of the year. Oh gosh! I sound like a total complaining adult. Yuck! How I wish autumn stays forever but like anything else in this world, it must indeed go. Life goes on.


photo by Ena Cuizon


One of the best things about blogging is discovering and giving light to budding talents which has so much promise. I learned about this new California-based street brand LATokyo through my friend Kiko and fell in love with it. LATokyo is the combination of the designers’ home city Los Angeles and their inspiration city Tokyo that carries the comfortable and laid back attitude of the famous Californian city with the fashion forward edginess of the Japanese capital.


 LA Tokyo himitsu tank top (click HERE) and harem sweatpants (click HERE), Nike hooded pullover and sneakers and H&M brim hat


Tank tops are not the best idea when it’s 8 degrees Celsius outside but I wanted to wear my himitsu tank when I visited my parents’ house. So I put it on my neoprene hooded pullover that I’ve been using for a long time plus another undergarment for more body heating purposes. Problem solved!


I love this LA Tokyo harem sweats. Not only they’re cool but they’re also very comfortable and functional with all its pockets. I’ve been looking around for a new pair of sweatpants that’s totally stylish and very useful too and big thanks to LATokyo for coming into my life.

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“秘密 (himitsu)” is the Japanese word for “secret” and LA Tokyo didn’t give that name to this piece for no reason. There is a secret white logo beneath the tank top which you can unbutton if you feel like showing it. Aside from being cool and hip, I love that LATokyo makes clothes not only to sell but also to tell a story and share a part of themselves.

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But most of all, I love how their pieces can easily be matched with the current stuff I have in my closet. LOL!


Since we’re already talking about secrets, let me ask you some questions about them.

1. Do you have any secrets, especially a big one that you can’t afford reveal?

2. How does it feel like having a secret that’s so big you’re not sure it’s gonna make or break your life?

3. Are you a good secret keeper? How do you feel when someone tells you a big secret?

4. Have you tried spilling another person’s secret? What happened?

Let’s try some interaction here and put your answers in the comment section below.


photo by Karen Takegahara

PS: This is NOT a sponsored post